Quit dating the church
And, let’s just be really honest, the reason “guarding her heart” became a thing is because men before you lied and we wanted a better term for lying.
How about we just drop that and form a new message: Pursue God and quit lying to women to fulfill your desires for emotional and physical intimacy. Message: Romantic relationships should be walking toward marriage.
I mean, I went to church on a regular basis, but my closest Christian friendships blossomed outside of it.
So I began wondering why I needed to spend time with a room full of strangers and acquaintances on Sundays if I could find good Christian friends in the real world, seven days a week.
But even quitting church services felt like an act of betrayal — I mean, where I grew up, someone who didn't go to church was "backslidden" or maybe not even saved.
So I maintained the Sunday morning routine throughout law school and assured myself that when I graduated, I would find a tight-knit church community in Jackson, Miss., where I was moving.
Weighing in at only 129 pages (and small pages at that) this is a book that can be read and digested in a couple of hours.
It forces a depth of commitment that is best reserved for months and years later. Gents, in closing, here’s what I’m asking you to do: Please, please, please take a look within yourself and determine if any of these messages have become part of your DNA.
And if they are, take from them what’s true, and discard that which has been distorted by a decade or more of emasculating dating advice. Women, or at least Erica, don’t seem to be asking you to be perfect or fully realized in your husbandness. Today’s conversation is about sweet Erica, and the Ericas that are sitting right next to you.
There is not much in this book that has not been said elsewhere more thoroughly and perhaps even more convincingly.
But what this book adds to the discussion is accessibility.